Тонкое искусство пофигизма

           PerhapsthesemetricswouldbebetterassessmentsofbrotherhoodthanhowmanytextmessagesheandIexchange.

           Thisclearlymakessense;itfeelstrueforme.ButitstillfuckinghurtsthatmybrotherandIaren’tclose.Andthere’snopositivewaytospinit.There’snosecretwaytoglorifymyselfthroughthisknowledge.Sometimesbrothers—evenbrotherswholoveeachother—don’thavecloserelationships,andthat’sfine.Itishardtoacceptatfirst,butthat’sfine.Whatisobjectivelytrueaboutyoursituationisnotasimportantashowyoucometoseethesituation,howyouchoosetomeasureitandvalueit.Problemsmaybeinevitable,butthemeaningofeachproblemisnot.Wegettocontrolwhatourproblemsmeanbasedonhowwechoosetothinkaboutthem,thestandardbywhichwechoosetomeasurethem.

           RockStarProblems

           In1983,atalentedyoungguitaristwaskickedoutofhisbandintheworstpossibleway.Thebandhadjustbeensignedtoarecorddeal,andtheywereabouttorecordtheirfirstalbum.Butacoupledaysbeforerecordingbegan,thebandshowedtheguitaristthedoor—nowarning,nodiscussion,nodramaticblowout;theyliterallywokehimuponedaybyhandinghimabustickethome.

           AshesatonthebusbacktoLosAngelesfromNewYork,theguitaristkeptaskinghimself:Howdidthishappen?WhatdidIdowrong?WhatwillIdonow?Recordcontractsdidn’texactlyfalloutofthesky,especiallyforraucous,upstartmetalbands.Hadhemissedhisoneandonlyshot?

           ButbythetimethebushitL.