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           Suchquestionsareimportantbecausetheyilluminatewhatweconsidersuccessorfailure.Whydoyoufeelangry?Isitbecauseyoufailedtoachievesomegoal?Whydoyoufeellethargicanduninspired?Isitbecauseyoudon’tthinkyou’regoodenough?

           Thislayerofquestioninghelpsusunderstandtherootcauseoftheemotionsthatoverwhelmus.Onceweunderstandthatrootcause,wecanideallydosomethingtochangeit.

           Butthere’sanother,evendeeperleveloftheself-awarenessonion.Andthatoneisfulloffuckingtears.Thethirdlevelisourpersonalvalues:WhydoIconsiderthistobesuccess/failure?HowamIchoosingtomeasuremyself?BywhatstandardamIjudgingmyselfandeveryonearoundme?

           Thislevel,whichtakesconstantquestioningandeffort,isincrediblydifficulttoreach.Butit’sthemostimportant,becauseourvaluesdeterminethenatureofourproblems,andthenatureofourproblemsdeterminesthequalityofourlives.

           Valuesunderlieeverythingweareanddo.Ifwhatwevalueisunhelpful,ifwhatweconsidersuccess/failureispoorlychosen,theneverythingbaseduponthosevalues—thethoughts,theemotions,theday-to-dayfeelings—willallbeoutofwhack.Everythingwethinkandfeelaboutasituationultimatelycomesbacktohowvaluableweperceiveittobe.

           Mostpeoplearehorribleatansweringthesewhyquestionsaccurately,andthispreventsthemfromachievingadeeperknowledgeoftheirownvalues.