Тонкое искусство пофигизма

           Unfortunately,formanypeople,lifedoesn’tfeelthatsimple.That’sbecausetheyfuckthingsupinatleastoneoftwoways:

           1.Denial.Somepeopledenythattheirproblemsexistinthefirstplace.Andbecausetheydenyreality,theymustconstantlydeludeordistractthemselvesfromreality.Thismaymakethemfeelgoodintheshortterm,butitleadstoalifeofinsecurity,neuroticism,andemotionalrepression.

           2.VictimMentality.Somechoosetobelievethatthereisnothingtheycandotosolvetheirproblems,evenwhentheyinfactcould.Victimsseektoblameothersfortheirproblemsorblameoutsidecircumstances.Thismaymakethemfeelbetterintheshortterm,butitleadstoalifeofanger,helplessness,anddespair.

           Peopledenyandblameothersfortheirproblemsforthesimplereasonthatit’seasyandfeelsgood,whilesolvingproblemsishardandoftenfeelsbad.Formsofblameanddenialgiveusaquickhigh.Theyareawaytotemporarilyescapeourproblems,andthatescapecanprovideusaquickrushthatmakesusfeelbetter.

           Highscomeinmanyforms.Whetherit’sasubstancelikealcohol,themoralrighteousnessthatcomesfromblamingothers,orthethrillofsomenewriskyadventure,highsareshallowandunproductivewaystogoaboutone’slife.Muchoftheself-helpworldispredicatedonpeddlinghighstopeopleratherthansolvinglegitimateproblems.Manyself-helpgurusteachyounewformsofdenialandpumpyouupwithexercisesthatfeelgoodintheshortterm,whileignoringtheunderlyingissue.