Тонкое искусство пофигизма

           Remember,nobodywhoisactuallyhappyhastostandinfrontofamirrorandtellhimselfthathe’shappy.

           Highsalsogenerateaddiction.Themoreyourelyonthemtofeelbetteraboutyourunderlyingproblems,themoreyouwillseekthemout.Inthissense,almostanythingcanbecomeaddictive,dependingonthemotivationbehindusingit.Weallhaveourchosenmethodstonumbthepainofourproblems,andinmoderatedosesthereisnothingwrongwiththis.Butthelongerweavoidandthelongerwenumb,themorepainfulitwillbewhenwefinallydoconfrontourissues.

           EmotionsAreOverrated

           Emotionsevolvedforonespecificpurpose:tohelpusliveandreproducealittlebitbetter.That’sit.They’refeedbackmechanismstellingusthatsomethingiseitherlikelyrightorlikelywrongforus—nothingmore,nothingless.

           Muchasthepainoftouchingahotstoveteachesyounottotouchitagain,thesadnessofbeingaloneteachesyounottodothethingsthatmadeyoufeelsoaloneagain.Emotionsaresimplybiologicalsignalsdesignedtonudgeyouinthedirectionofbeneficialchange.

           Look,Idon’tmeantomakelightofyourmidlifecrisisorthefactthatyourdrunkdadstoleyourbikewhenyouwereeightyearsoldandyoustillhaven’tgottenoverit,butwhenitcomesdowntoit,ifyoufeelcrappyit’sbecauseyourbrainistellingyouthatthere’saproblemthat’sunaddressedorunresolved.Inotherwords,negativeemotionsareacalltoaction.Whenyoufeelthem,it’sbecauseyou’resupposedtodosomething.