Тонкое искусство пофигизма

           Continuecausingdramaandfrictionwithinthefamily,complicatingwhatshouldotherwisebeahappymoment,anddamagethetrustandrespecthehaswithhissister,allbecausehehasahunch(somemightcallitanintuition)thatthisguyisbadforher.

           B.Mistrusthisownabilitytodeterminewhat’srightorwrongforhissister’slifeandremainhumble,trustherabilitytomakeherowndecisions,andevenifhedoesn’t,livewiththeresultsoutofhisloveandrespectforher.

           MostpeoplechooseoptionA.That’sbecauseoptionAistheeasierpath.Itrequireslittlethought,nosecond-guessing,andzerotoleranceofdecisionsotherpeoplemakethatyoudon’tlike.

           Italsocreatesthemostmiseryforeveryoneinvolved.

           It’soptionBthatsustainshealthyandhappyrelationshipsbuiltontrustandrespect.It’soptionBthatforcespeopletoremainhumbleandadmitignorance.It’soptionBthatallowspeopletogrowbeyondtheirinsecuritiesandrecognizesituationswherethey’rebeingimpulsiveorunfairorselfish.

           ButoptionBishardandpainful,somostpeopledon’tchooseit.

           Myfriend’sbrother,inprotestingherengagement,enteredintoanimaginarybattlewithhimself.Sure,hebelievedhewastryingtoprotecthissister,butaswe’veseen,beliefsarearbitrary;worseyet,they’reoftenmadeupafterthefacttojustifywhatevervaluesandmetricswe’vechosenforourselves