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           Butit’simportanttonotethatjustbecauseyouaskyourselfifyouhavethewrongideadoesn’tnecessarilymeanthatyoudo.Ifyourhusbandbeatsthecrapoutofyouforburningthepotroastandyouaskyourselfifyou’rewrongtobelievehe’smistreatingyou—well,sometimesyou’reright.Thegoalismerelytoaskthequestionandentertainthethoughtatthemoment,nottohateyourself.

           It’sworthrememberingthatforanychangetohappeninyourlife,youmustbewrongaboutsomething.Ifyou’resittingthere,miserabledayafterday,thenthatmeansyou’realreadywrongaboutsomethingmajorinyourlife,anduntilyou’reabletoquestionyourselftofindit,nothingwillchange.

           Question#2:WhatwoulditmeanifIwerewrong?

           Manypeopleareabletoaskthemselvesifthey’rewrong,butfewareabletogotheextrastepandadmitwhatitwouldmeaniftheywerewrong.That’sbecausethepotentialmeaningbehindourwrongnessisoftenpainful.Notonlydoesitcallintoquestionourvalues,butitforcesustoconsiderwhatadifferent,contradictoryvaluecouldpotentiallylookandfeellike.

           Aristotlewrote,“Itisthemarkofaneducatedmindtobeabletoentertainathoughtwithoutacceptingit.”Beingabletolookatandevaluatedifferentvalueswithoutnecessarilyadoptingthemisperhapsthecentralskillrequiredinchangingone’sownlifeinameaningfulway.