Тонкое искусство пофигизма

           Whenviewedfromthisperspective,personalgrowthcanactuallybequitescientific.Ourvaluesareourhypotheses:thisbehaviorisgoodandimportant;thatotherbehaviorisnot.Ouractionsaretheexperiments;theresultingemotionsandthoughtpatternsareourdata.

           Thereisnocorrectdogmaorperfectideology.Thereisonlywhatyourexperiencehasshownyoutoberightforyou—andeventhen,thatexperienceisprobablysomewhatwrongtoo.AndbecauseyouandIandeverybodyelseallhavedifferingneedsandpersonalhistoriesandlifecircumstances,wewillallinevitablycometodiffering“correct”answersaboutwhatourlivesmeanandhowtheyshouldbelived.Mycorrectanswerinvolvestravelingaloneforyearsonend,livinginobscureplaces,andlaughingatmyownfarts.Oratleastthatwasthecorrectanswerupuntilrecently.Thatanswerwillchangeandevolve,becauseIchangeandevolve;andasIgrowolderandmoreexperienced,IchipawayathowwrongIam,becominglessandlesswrongeveryday.

           Manypeoplebecomesoobsessedwithbeing“right”abouttheirlifethattheyneverendupactuallylivingit.

           Acertainwomanissingleandlonelyandwantsapartner,butshenevergetsoutofthehouseanddoesanythingaboutit.Acertainmanworkshisassoffandbelieveshedeservesapromotion,butheneverexplicitlysaysthattohisboss.

           They’retoldthatthey’reafraidoffailure,ofrejection,ofsomeonesayingno.

           Butthat’snotit.Sure,rejectionhurts.Failuresucks.