Тонкое искусство пофигизма

           AndifIdatedsomeonewithshittyvaluesforthatlong,whatdidthatsayaboutmeandmyvalues?Ilearnedthehardwaythatifthepeopleinyourrelationshipsareselfishanddoinghurtfulthings,it’slikelyyouaretoo,youjustdon’trealizeit.

           Inhindsight,Iwasabletolookbackandseewarningsignsofmyex-girlfriend’scharacter,signsIhadchosentoignoreorbrushoffwhenIwaswithher.Thatwasmyfault.IcouldlookbackandseethatIhadn’texactlybeentheBoyfriendoftheYeartohereither.Infact,Ihadoftenbeencoldandarroganttowardher;othertimesItookherforgrantedandblewheroffandhurther.Thesethingsweremyfaulttoo.

           Didmymistakesjustifyhermistake?No.Butstill,Itookontheresponsibilityofnevermakingthosesamemistakesagain,andneveroverlookingthesamesignsagain,tohelpguaranteethatIwillneversufferthesameconsequencesagain.Itookontheresponsibilityofstrivingtomakemyfuturerelationshipswithwomenthatmuchbetter.AndI’mhappytoreportthatIhave.Nomorecheatinggirlfriendsleavingme,nomore253stomachpunches.Itookresponsibilityformyproblemsandimproveduponthem.Itookresponsibilityformyroleinthatunhealthyrelationshipandimproveduponitwithlaterrelationships.

           Andyouknowwhat?Myexleavingme,whileoneofthemostpainfulexperiencesI’veeverhad,wasalsooneofthemostimportantandinfluentialexperiencesofmylife.Icredititwithinspiringasignificantamountofpersonalgrowth.