Тонкое искусство пофигизма

           Ilearnedmorefromthatsingleproblemthandozensofmysuccessescombined.

           Wealllovetotakeresponsibilityforsuccessandhappiness.Hell,weoftenfightoverwhogetstoberesponsibleforsuccessandhappiness.Buttakingresponsibilityforourproblemsisfarmoreimportant,becausethat’swherethereallearningcomesfrom.That’swherethereal-lifeimprovementcomesfrom.Tosimplyblameothersisonlytohurtyourself.

           RespondingtoTragedy

           Butwhataboutreallyawfulevents?Alotofpeoplecangetonboardwithtakingresponsibilityforwork-relatedproblemsandmaybewatchingtoomuchTVwhentheyshouldreallybeplayingwiththeirkidsorbeingproductive.Butwhenitcomestohorribletragedies,theypulltheemergencycordontheresponsibilitytrainandgetoffwhenitstops.Somethingsjustfeeltoopainfulforthemtoownupto.

           Butthinkaboutit:theintensityoftheeventdoesn’tchangetheunderlyingtruth.Ifyougetrobbed,say,you’reobviouslynotatfaultforbeingrobbed.Noonewouldeverchoosetogothroughthat.Butaswiththebabyonyourdoorstep,youareimmediatelythrustintoresponsibilityforalife-and-deathsituation.Doyoufightback?Doyoupanic?Doyoufreezeup?Doyoutellthepolice?Doyoutrytoforgetitandpretenditneverhappened?Theseareallchoicesandreactionsyou’reresponsibleformakingorrejecting.Youdidn’tchoosetherobbery,butit’sstillyourresponsibilitytomanagetheemotionalandpsychological(andlegal)falloutoftheexperience.