Тонкое искусство пофигизма

           “IwanttodateonlywomenwholikemeforwhoIam”mighthavebeenaniceplacetostart—ametricthatassessesthevaluesofhonestyandacceptance.Buthedidnotchoosethesevalues.Helikelywasn’tevenawarethathewaschoosinghisvalue(orcoulddoso).Eventhoughhedidn’trealizeit,hewasresponsibleforhisownproblems.

           Despitethatresponsibility,hewentoncomplaining:“ButIdon’thaveachoice,”hewouldtellthebartender.“There’snothingIcando!Womenaresuperficialandvainandwillneverlikeme!”Yes,it’severysinglewoman’sfaultfornotlikingaself-pitying,shallowguywithshittyvalues.Obviously.

           Alotofpeoplehesitatetotakeresponsibilityfortheirproblemsbecausetheybelievethattoberesponsibleforyourproblemsistoalsobeatfaultforyourproblems.

           Responsibilityandfaultoftenappeartogetherinourculture.Butthey’renotthesamething.IfIhityouwithmycar,Iambothatfaultandlikelylegallyresponsibletocompensateyouinsomeway.Evenifhittingyouwithmycarwasanaccident,Iamstillresponsible.Thisisthewayfaultworksinoursociety:ifyoufuckup,you’reonthehookformakingitright.Anditshouldbethatway.

           Buttherearealsoproblemsthatwearen’tatfaultfor,yetwearestillresponsibleforthem.

           Forexample,ifyouwokeuponedayandtherewasanewbornbabyonyourdoorstep,itwouldnotbeyourfaultthatthebabyhadbeenputthere,butthebabywouldnowbeyourresponsibility.