Тонкое искусство пофигизма

           Here’sthisguywithmillionsofdollars,hundredsofthousandsofadoringfans,acareerdoingthethinghelovesbest,andstillhe’sgettingallweepy-eyedthathisrockstarbuddiesfromtwentyyearsagoarewaymorefamousthanheis.

           ThisisbecauseyouandIhavedifferentvaluesthanMustainedoes,andwemeasureourselvesbydifferentmetrics.Ourmetricsareprobablymorelike“Idon’twanttoworkajobforabossIhate,”or“I’dliketoearnenoughmoneytosendmykidtoagoodschool,”or“I’dbehappytonotwakeupinadrainageditch.”Andbythesemetrics,Mustaineiswildly,unimaginablysuccessful.Butbyhismetric,“BemorepopularandsuccessfulthanMetallica,”he’safailure.

           Ourvaluesdeterminethemetricsbywhichwemeasureourselvesandeveryoneelse.Onoda’svalueofloyaltytotheJapaneseempireiswhatsustainedhimonLubangforalmostthirtyyears.ButthissamevalueisalsowhatmadehimmiserableuponhisreturntoJapan.Mustaine’smetricofbeingbetterthanMetallicalikelyhelpedhimlaunchanincrediblysuccessfulmusiccareer.Butthatsamemetriclatertorturedhiminspiteofhissuccess.

           Ifyouwanttochangehowyouseeyourproblems,youhavetochangewhatyouvalueand/orhowyoumeasurefailure/success.

           Asanexample,let’slookatanothermusicianwhogotkickedoutofanotherband.HisstoryeerilyechoesthatofDaveMustaine,althoughithappenedtwodecadesearlier.

           Itwas1962andtherewasabuzzaroundanup-and-comingbandfromLiverpool,England.