Тонкое искусство пофигизма

           Itsuggeststhatyourrelationshipisconditional—basedonsuperficialbenefitsreceivedfromoneanother,ratherthanonunconditionalacceptanceofeachother(alongwitheachother’sproblems).

           Peoplewithstrongboundariesarenotafraidofatempertantrum,anargument,orgettinghurt.Peoplewithweakboundariesareterrifiedofthosethingsandwillconstantlymoldtheirownbehaviortofitthehighsandlowsoftheirrelationalemotionalrollercoaster.

           Peoplewithstrongboundariesunderstandthatit’sunreasonabletoexpecttwopeopletoaccommodateeachother100percentandfulfilleveryneedtheotherhas.Peoplewithstrongboundariesunderstandthattheymayhurtsomeone’sfeelingssometimes,butultimatelytheycan’tdeterminehowotherpeoplefeel.Peoplewithstrongboundariesunderstandthatahealthyrelationshipisnotaboutcontrollingoneanother’semotions,butratherabouteachpartnersupportingtheotherintheirindividualgrowthandinsolvingtheirownproblems.

           It’snotaboutgivingafuckabouteverythingyourpartnergivesafuckabout;it’saboutgivingafuckaboutyourpartnerregardlessofthefucksheorshegives.That’sunconditionallove,baby.

           HowtoBuildTrust

           Mywifeisoneofthosewomenwhospendalotoftimeinfrontofthemirror.Shelovestolookamazing,andIloveforhertolookamazingtoo(obviously).