Тонкое искусство пофигизма
Chapter 8
Whetherit’sBenAffleckworkingtodestroyanasteroidtosavetheearthforthegirlheloves,orMelGibsonmurderinghundredsofEnglishmenandfantasizingabouthisrapedandmurderedwifewhilebeingtorturedtodeath,orthatElvenchickgivingupherimmortalitytobewithAragorninLordoftheRings,orstupidromanticcomedieswhereJimmyFallonforgoeshisRedSoxplayoffticketsbecauseDrewBarrymorehas,like,needsorsomething.
Ifthissortofromanticlovewerecocaine,thenasaculturewe’dallbelikeTonyMontanainScarface:buryingourfacesinafuckingmountainofit,screaming,“Sayhellotomylee-tlefriend!”
Theproblemisthatwe’refindingoutthatromanticloveiskindoflikecocaine.Like,frighteninglysimilartococaine.Like,stimulatestheexactsamepartsofyourbrainascocaine.Like,getsyouhighandmakesyoufeelgoodforawhilebutalsocreatesasmanyproblemsasitsolves,asdoescocaine.
Mostelementsofromanticlovethatwepursue—thedramaticanddizzyinglyemotionaldisplaysofaffection,thetopsy-turvyupsanddowns—aren’thealthy,genuinedisplaysoflove.Infact,they’reoftenjustanotherformofentitlementplayingoutthroughpeople’srelationships.
Iknow:thatmakesmesoundlikesuchadowner.Seriously,whatkindofguyshitsonromanticlove?Buthearmeout.
Thetruthis,therearehealthyformsofloveandunhealthyformsoflove.
