Тонкое искусство пофигизма

           Instead,measureyourselfbymoremundaneidentities:astudent,apartner,afriend,acreator.

           Thenarrowerandrarertheidentityyouchooseforyourself,themoreeverythingwillseemtothreatenyou.Forthatreason,defineyourselfinthesimplestandmostordinarywayspossible.

           Thisoftenmeansgivingupsomegrandioseideasaboutyourself:thatyou’reuniquelyintelligent,orspectacularlytalented,orintimidatinglyattractive,orespeciallyvictimizedinwaysotherpeoplecouldneverimagine.Thismeansgivingupyoursenseofentitlementandyourbeliefthatyou’resomehowowedsomethingbythisworld.Thismeansgivingupthesupplyofemotionalhighsthatyou’vebeensustainingyourselfonforyears.Likeajunkiegivinguptheneedle,you’regoingtogothroughwithdrawalwhenyoustartgivingthesethingsup.Butyou’llcomeouttheothersidesomuchbetter.

           HowtoBeaLittleLessCertainofYourself

           Questioningourselvesanddoubtingourownthoughtsandbeliefsisoneofthehardestskillstodevelop.Butitcanbedone.Herearesomequestionsthatwillhelpyoubreedalittlemoreuncertaintyinyourlife.

           Question#1:WhatifI’mwrong?

           Afriendofminerecentlygotengagedtobemarried.Theguywhoproposedtoherisprettysolid.Hedoesn’tdrink.Hedoesn’thitherormistreather.He’sfriendlyandhasagoodjob.