Тонкое искусство пофигизма

           You’vespenthalfyourlifemeasuringyourselfbythatoldvalue,sowhenyouchangeyourpriorities,changeyourmetrics,andstopbehavinginthesameway,you’llfailtomeetthatold,trustedmetricandthusimmediatelyfeellikesomesortoffraudornobody.Thisisalsonormalandalsouncomfortable.

           Andcertainlyyouwillweatherrejections.Manyoftherelationshipsinyourlifewerebuiltaroundthevaluesyou’vebeenkeeping,sothemomentyouchangethosevalues—themomentyoudecidethatstudyingismoreimportantthanpartying,thatgettingmarriedandhavingafamilyismoreimportantthanrampantsex,thatworkingajobyoubelieveinismoreimportantthanmoney—yourturnaroundwillreverberateoutthroughyourrelationships,andmanyofthemwillblowupinyourface.Thistooisnormalandthistoowillbeuncomfortable.

           Thesearenecessary,thoughpainful,sideeffectsofchoosingtoplaceyourfuckselsewhere,inaplacefarmoreimportantandmoreworthyofyourenergies.Asyoureassessyourvalues,youwillbemetwithinternalandexternalresistancealongtheway.Morethananything,youwillfeeluncertain;youwillwonderifwhatyou’redoingiswrong.

           Butaswe’llsee,thisisagoodthing.