Тонкое искусство пофигизма

           Honestyisagoodvaluebecauseit’ssomethingyouhavecompletecontrolover,itreflectsreality,anditbenefitsothers(evenifit’ssometimesunpleasant).Popularity,ontheotherhand,isabadvalue.Ifthat’syourvalue,andifyourmetricisbeingthemostpopularguy/girlatthedanceparty,muchofwhathappenswillbeoutofyourcontrol:youdon’tknowwhoelsewillbeattheevent,andyouprobablywon’tknowwhohalfthosepeopleare.Second,thevalue/metricisn’tbasedonreality:youmayfeelpopularorunpopular,wheninfactyouhavenofuckingcluewhatanybodyelsereallythinksaboutyou.(SideNote:Asarule,peoplewhoareterrifiedofwhatothersthinkaboutthemareactuallyterrifiedofalltheshittythingstheythinkaboutthemselvesbeingreflectedbackatthem.)

           Someexamplesofgood,healthyvalues:honesty,innovation,vulnerability,standingupforoneself,standingupforothers,self-respect,curiosity,charity,humility,creativity.

           Someexamplesofbad,unhealthyvalues:dominancethroughmanipulationorviolence,indiscriminatefucking,feelinggoodallthetime,alwaysbeingthecenterofattention,notbeingalone,beinglikedbyeverybody,beingrichforthesakeofbeingrich,sacrificingsmallanimalstothepagangods.

           You’llnoticethatgood,healthyvaluesareachievedinternally.Somethinglikecreativityorhumilitycanbeexperiencedrightnow.Yousimplyhavetoorientyourmindinacertainwaytoexperienceit.