Тонкое искусство пофигизма
Chapter 3
Thetruthisthatthere’snosuchthingasapersonalproblem.Ifyou’vegotaproblem,chancesaremillionsofotherpeoplehavehaditinthepast,haveitnow,andaregoingtohaveitinthefuture.Likelypeopleyouknowtoo.Thatdoesn’tminimizetheproblemormeanthatitshouldn’thurt.Itdoesn’tmeanyouaren’tlegitimatelyavictiminsomecircumstances.
Itjustmeansthatyou’renotspecial.
Often,it’sthisrealization—thatyouandyourproblemsareactuallynotprivilegedintheirseverityorpain—thatisthefirstandmostimportantsteptowardsolvingthem.
Butforsomereason,itappearsthatmoreandmorepeople,particularlyyoungpeople,areforgettingthis.Numerousprofessorsandeducatorshavenotedalackofemotionalresilienceandanexcessofselfishdemandsintoday’syoungpeople.It’snotuncommonnowforbookstoberemovedfromaclass’scurriculumfornootherreasonthanthattheymadesomeonefeelbad.SpeakersandprofessorsareshouteddownandbannedfromcampusesforinfractionsassimpleassuggestingthatmaybesomeHalloweencostumesreallyaren’tthatoffensive.Schoolcounselorsnotethatmorestudentsthaneverareexhibitingseveresignsofemotionaldistressoverwhatareotherwiserun-of-the-milldailycollegeexperiences,suchasanargumentwitharoommate,orgettingalowgradeinaclass.
It’sstrangethatinanagewhenwearemoreconnectedthanever,entitlementseemstobeatanall-timehigh.
