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           Infact,researchhasfoundthatourbrainsdon’tregistermuchdifferencebetweenphysicalpainandpsychologicalpain.SowhenItellyouthatmyfirstgirlfriendcheatingonmeandleavingmefeltlikehavinganicepickslowlyinsertedintothecenterofmyheart,that’sbecause,well,ithurtsomuchImightaswellhavehadanicepickslowlyinsertedintothecenterofmyheart.

           Likephysicalpain,ourpsychologicalpainisanindicationofsomethingoutofequilibrium,somelimitationthathasbeenexceeded.Andlikeourphysicalpain,ourpsychologicalpainisnotnecessarilyalwaysbadorevenundesirable.Insomecases,experiencingemotionalorpsychologicalpaincanbehealthyornecessary.Justlikestubbingourtoeteachesustowalkintofewertables,theemotionalpainofrejectionorfailureteachesushowtoavoidmakingthesamemistakesinthefuture.

           Andthisiswhat’ssodangerousaboutasocietythatcoddlesitselfmoreandmorefromtheinevitablediscomfortsoflife:welosethebenefitsofexperiencinghealthydosesofpain,alossthatdisconnectsusfromtherealityoftheworldaroundus.

           Youmaysalivateatthethoughtofaproblem-freelifefullofeverlastinghappinessandeternalcompassion,butbackhereonearththeproblemsnevercease.Seriously,problemsdon’tend.DisappointmentPandajustdroppedby.Wehadmargaritas,andhetoldmeallaboutit:problemsneverfuckinggoaway,hesaid—theyjustimprove.WarrenBuffett’sgotmoneyproblems;thedrunkhobodownatKwik-EMart’sgotmoneyproblems.